Monday, December 15, 2008

Tips for Dealing With The Holiday Blues

Here are some tips I found online on how to deal with the holiday blues...I posted these tips last year. I like them so much I am sharing with you all again...

source: adapted from Good Grief! I’m Having a Charlie Brown Xmas: How to Deal with the Holiday Blues by Kirsti A. Dyer, MD, MS, FAAETS and 7 Tips For Beating The Holiday Blues by Lisa Angelettie M.S.W.

* Stay Connected - The worse thing you can do for the holiday blues is to be isolated from your support system. Reach out and reconnect with old friends or make new ones; this can help deal with the loneliness experienced during this season.

* Avoid Addictive Substances / Addictive Behaviors - While you do experience a temporary numbing effect - your feelings of "the blues" will only become magnified once you come down off of your drug of choice.

* Determine priorities, establish realistic goals and expectations for the holiday season - Don't expect that everything will be perfect—food, decorations, parties, family behavior or presents. Keep expectations manageable. Decide what can be comfortably done and what cannot be done.

* Maintain a normal routine - Try and continue with normal daily activities.

* Take time for yourself—for rest and relaxation.

* Do those activities, or be with the people that comfort, sustain, nourish and recharge you.

* Minimize financial stressors by knowing your spending limit, setting a budget and sticking to it - Remember that the best gifts often come from the desire to make someone happy, not the price tag.

* Remember the true reason for the season.

* Feelings of grief, loss or sadness should be acknowledged, not ignored or repressed by those who have experienced a death, romantic break-up, tragedy or significant loss.

* Spend time with caring, supportive, nurturing people.

* Old holiday traditions may no longer be possible as families change. Find new ways to celebrate the season. Create new rituals, traditions or remembrances.

* Tell someone - Did it ever occur to you that it would be much easier to get through the holidays if someone else knows how hard it is for you? People that care about you want to help.

* Remember to take the holidays (and life), one hour at a time...one day at a time.

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Hope you have a happy, safe and healthy holiday season.

peace, hope and love,

Lily

4 comments:

ann said...

good advice lily. i saw charlie brown christmas for the first time last week. when am i seeing you again? miss u.

Heather Palacios said...

Very good and timely advice. This time of year can be a trigger for my weakness. Thank God I have God to keep me grounded.

Lily said...

Hi Ann Marie,
Thanks for stopping by. Glad you found the advice useful. I have not seen A Charlie Brown Christmas in a loooooooong time :-)
Look forward to seeing you soon. My schedule has been very hectic.
Peace, hope and love,
Lily

Lily said...

Hi Heat(Her)!
Thanks so much for stopping by girl! :-)
Holidays, even though filled with joy, excitement, anticipation, can also bring a lot of stress and change to our routines that can lead us to use old ways of dealing with these stressors.

It is important to stay connected to those we do life with, ask for help, keep our routine as much as possible, do what we know works and take the holidays one day at a time.

If we do our part and give it to God, he will help us through it.

Look forward to seeing you soon.

Lily :-)