From our group discussion this weekend:Many times we say to ourselves or hear from others that we "need to take care of ourselves"...but what does that mean, exactly? Granted this is not something that is accomplished in a day, it is a life-process, but it is good to know, understand and be clear about what we are working towards. It is ok if we are not there yet. We all can constantly grow and improve in these areas.
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In her book Co-Dependent No More, Melody Beattie explains:
What does it mean to take care of ourselves?
Self-care is an attitude towards ourselves and our lives that says:
1. I am responsible for myself.
2. I am responsible for leading or not living my life.
3. I am responsible for tending to my spiritual, emotional, physical and financial well-being.
4. I am responsible for identifying and meeting my needs.
5. I am responsible for solving my problems or learning to live with those I cannot solve.
6. I am responsible for my choices.
7. I am responsible for what I give and receive.
8. I am responsible for setting and achieving my goals.
9. I am responsible for how much I enjoy life.
10. I am responsible for how much pleasure I find in daily activities.
11. I am responsible for whom I love and whom I choose to express this love.
12. I am responsible for what I do to others and for what I allow others to do to me.
13. I am responsible for my wants and desires.
14. All of me, every aspect of my being, is important.
15. I count for something.
16. I matter.
17. I do not deserve and will not tolerate abuse or constant mistreatment.
18. I value my wants and needs.
19. I have rights, and it is my responsibility to assert these rights.
20. My decisions will take into account my responsibilities to myself.
21. My decisions will also take into account my responsibilities to other people - my spouse, my children, my relatives, my friends.
22. I will also consider the rights of those around me.
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Which one of these do you need to work on in your recovery?
peace, hope and love,
Lily
2 comments:
Wow it's great that there is a group for people with these disorders. We just touched on eating disorders a little in class today, how scary it must be...You are doing great work!
Hey Lindsay,
Thanks so much for stopping by and for your kind words.
I had an eating disorder 8 years ago. Now, far along in recovery, I am helping others that are were I once was.
You are an inspiration! Keep blogging!
peace, hope and love,
Lily
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